How sneaky can grief sneak up on you? Blog by: Brandee Marie Darden! Date of blog: Wednesday, 9/18/24!!!

                                          💔😢 How sneaky can grief sneak up on you? Blog by: Brandee Marie Darden! Date of blog: Wednesday, 9/18/24! This blog is dedicated to anyone who is going through grief at the moment! 💔😭 

Intro to my blog! 

Well, hello my Blogger Dreamers! It's your girl aka the Blogger Queen herself, Brandee here and welcome back to an all new weekly blog episode for today! How are y'all doing today? I hope and pray that everyone is doing okay and well! Whatever y'all might be going through or whatever it is dragging y'all down, you are not alone and you have people who love you so much and I care about y'all so much!! Who is ready for an all new blog episode today? I know that I am but first, a blog recap from Monday! On Monday, I analyzed the song "Cruel" by: Jackson Wang, blog by: Brandee Marie Darden! When I think about the word "cruel", I think about how people can bring you down to make themselves feel better and they don't care about your feelings which is sad! People can so cruel these days and it is not fair! If y'all haven't read this blog episode and would love to check it out, I will leave the link right here: →"cruel" by: Jackson Wang, blog by: Brandee Marie Darden! Please, go give my blog episode read! You won't regret it! Now, for today's blog episode, I will be talking about how sneaky can grief sneak up on you? by: Brandee Marie Darden! This blog is dedicated to anyone who is going through grief at the moment! In this blog episode, I will be talking about how sneaky can grief sneak up on you? Why can grief sneak up on you like that? What can grief do to a person? Why can grief do that to a person like that? How do I handle grief? Why can I handle grief like that? Why is my advice to my Blogger Dreamers who are handling grief? Why would I give that advice to my Blogger Dreamers? Now, without further ado, let's get our thinking caps on and get this blog episode started! Shall we? We shall! 


What does grief mean to me? Why does grief mean to me like that?

What does grief mean to me? When I think about what grief mean to me, I think about losing a loved one who meant a lot to me! In February of 2017, I lost my Grandpa Flex! He meant a lot to me and losing him about killed me!! Last year, I lost one of my great friends and that killed me the most! When I am going through grief, it hurts me! I can't imagine that I would go to a funeral for a good friend of mine, but I did last year and it hurt so much! Grief is something that we will go through in life but we need to realize that our love ones are looking down on us and they are proud of us! I know that my Grandpa Flex is proud of me! Why does grief mean to me like that? The reason why grief mean to me like that is because at some point, everyone is going to go through grief and it is okay to be sad but sometimes, we need to realize that our love one is not in pain anymore and it is okay to cry! Grief hurts but God will comfort us through our difficult times!!

How? 

How sneaky can grief sneak up on you? Grief can sneak up on you real quick! One minute, you can be fine but the next minute, you are crying and a song comes on or you are at a restaurant and you think about the person who passed away favorite meal! You listen to a song and you think about that person! Grief can hit you like a ton of bricks that you didn't see coming! It hurts sometimes when you listen to a song or you watch a show and you are thinking to yourself, "I wish this person was here to see it" or for me, I wish my grandpa, Flex would of saw me gotten baptize and accepted the Lord as my Savior! I know he would of been so proud of me! I miss him so much!!! 

Why?

Why can grief do that? The reason why grief can do that is because a person can be fine one minute and the next minute, you are crying because of a song that reminded you of that person or you are thinking about a memory that you had with that person! It is hard to think about what grief can do to a person because everyone takes grief differently! When you are by your self, you think about the person who you miss so much!!! Grief can be so sneaky that you don't have time to blink and that's hard! Grief is hard but the person that passed away is no longer in pain anymore and they are so proud of you!! They are grinning from ear to ear knowing that you are doing such an amazing job!! 

What?

What can grief do to a person? Grief can hit a person differently! Sometimes, grief can hurt a person or it can make a person cry and not to talk to people! Sometimes, when a person goes through grief, they are delusional! They couldn't believe it! They think that person isn't gone but they are actually gone! It hurts to lose a love one who you are close to and you don't want to believe that person is actually gone but you believe that person is gone because they are not at your house anymore! I remember when my Grandpa Flex came over and when he passed away, it felt empty for me! I miss him everyday and I think about how proud he would be of me! I think about him so much!

Why?

Why can grief do that to a person like that? The reason why when a person is handling grief that way is because sometimes, people can handle grief like that! Sometimes, a person is angry because they are blaming for that person's death or they cry so much to the point they feel numb! Sometimes, people are delusional because they think that person is going to wake up, but they didn't wake up and that's difficult! Going through this sadness in life, it is hard but your loved ones are looking down on you seeing how much you have grown in life!! Continue to make that person proud!! 


How?

How do I handle grief? The way I handle grief is I cry and then, I am delusional because I think that person isn't gone but they are actually gone! I will be crying for days and blaming myself! I don't take death well! I remember when my Grandpa Flex passed away and for awhile, I was in delusional because I didn't want to believe that he was gone but deep down, I knew he passed away and that was hard for me! To this day, I still don't want to believe it! I didn't want to believe it for awhile and to me, I still cry when I am thinking about him because he was a big part of my life and he will always be a big part of my life! He came to my softball games or anything that had to deal with me or anyone in my family, he was there! When there was a football game going on, he would yell at the tv a lot of times! I miss him so much! 

Why? 

Why can I handle grief like that? The reason why I handle grief like that is because sometimes, I wish it could of been me instead of him! Sometimes, when I think about the memories that I have with my Grandpa Flex, I would start immediately crying! Every time, I go to a sport store or I remember when I was in Hobby Lobby, I saw Mississippi State fabric and I wanted to cry then and there because I missed him so much! Every time I think about him, I want to cry so much! It is hard to think about how life would be without that person and here I am 7 years later and I still miss him everyday!! I knew he send my boyfriend to be in my life for a reason! He saw me how unhappy I was so he wanted me to be happy with the man that I am with! I loved and missed my grandpa so much! I would do anything to hug him again!

My advice! 

What is my advice to my Blogger Dreamers who are handling grief? To my Blogger Dreamers who are handling grief, my advice to you is it is okay to cry! It is okay to feel they way that you are feeling and it is okay to feel hurt but you don't want your family member that passed away want you to be sad forever! They want you to be happy! I know it is hard but just deal with one day at a time! I know you miss them so much but always remember the happy memories you have with that person!! Those memories will always live in your head forever and never forget!! 

Why?

Why would I give that to my Blogger Dreamers? The reason why I would give that advice to my Blogger Dreamers is because grief is hard and not having that person in your life anymore, that is hard as because you don't get to see that person everyday like you used to do and now, you have the memories that you remember by! I know that is hard to handle but just know that the person who passed away is no longer in pain and they are always looking down on you and so proud of you! I know that my Grandpa Flex is proud of me! I know that he likes to see me happy and would want me to be happy!! Don't be sad and just take it one day at a time!

In closing/ Reminder of the day!! 

In closing, grief can be hard to deal at times because you don't know if you are going to be happy or sad and for me, it can hit me like a ton of bricks! Losing a loved one is the hardest thing in life! For me, when I lost a lot of people in my life, it hard and I was in delusional for a little while because I didn't want to believe that my Grandpa Flex was gone or a good friend was gone either! For me, losing someone that you is hard but they don't want you to cry all the time!! They want you to be happy and live your best life! Grief is something that we are going to handle for the rest of our lives and it doesn't get easy but with God on our side, he will never leave our side! Here is my reminder of the day! My reminder of the day is take it a day at a time! It's okay to cry and it is okay to remember those memories that you have with that person but don't be sad! God will take care of you! Let him comfort you! I love y'all so much!


Hello, my Blogger Dreamers! It's your girl aka the Blogger Queen herself, Brandee here and y'all just reached the end of today's blog episode for today! The moral of this blog episode is losing someone is hard and grieving over that person is totally okay but that person doesn't want you to be sad forever and they want you to be happy! If my Grandpa Flex saw me crying right about now, he would of been like "Dry your tears up! You can cry but you can't cry too much". I sure do miss him so much! He was so funny and when a ref on the football game on the tv makes the wrong call, he would yell at the tv! He loved football and he loved Mississippi State! There is never a day where I don't think about him because I miss him more than anything in this world! I wish he could of saw me the young lady that I am today! I know he would be so proud of me!! I know that he smiling from ear to ear knowing that I changed my life for the better and he knows much I am trying!! I know he would be so proud of me! For today's quote of the day, it goes little something like this by Rentless Woman and it goes something like this: "She Is Strong In Faith, Fierce With Love, Determined To Overcome, Wisely Seeking Him, Passionately Pursing His Presence And She Will Not Fail". -Rentless Woman. I absolutely love this quote so much ever since I got saved, I became stronger than ever, I became fierce with the love for people who love me, I was determined to overcome every obstacle in life, I am wise for seeking into the Lord because His presence means everything to me because I know He don't want me to fail!! The Lord would want me to keep going and pushing forward!! I love y'all and I pray that everyone will have a good day or had a good day! Happy Wednesday or in other countries, Happy Thursday! Always remember "Dream Big! Don't give up on your dreams" and I will see y'all on Friday where I will be talking about when you close your eyes. Stay tuned! This Blogger Queen is out! Peace!! ☮✌❤☺ 

Today's quote of the day! I absolutely love this quote a lot because ever since I became saved, I became strong in faith, I had a fierceness with my love for people who I care about, I was determined to overcome every obstacle in my life, I was wisely seeking in the Lord, passionately pursing his presence because I know that he will never leave me and he won't leave you either!


"The pain of grief is 
worth every moment 
knowing you".
-Riri. I absolutely love this quote because when a person is gone, you remember the good moments that you had with them and you remember that they worth meeting in your life!! 


"Grief is like the ocean: it
comes on waves ebbing and
flowing. Sometimes the water
is calm, and sometimes it's 
overwhelming. All we can
do is learn to swim".
-Unknown. I absolutely love this quote so much because one minute, you are fine and then, the next minute, you are crying and you are missing that person more than anything in this world!! Grief can hit you at once and you don't know what hit you!! 


"People rush to get rid of grief
because they see it as hanging 
onto loss. But grief is really 
hanging onto love- which is 
why you always feel it".
-Riri. I couldn't agree with this quote because some people want to get rid of grief but it is hard because when you lose a loved one, you are hurting and you want to grief and have that time to yourself to process the pain that you are going through! Give it to God because he will guide you!! 


My tiktok video that I did about what grief means to me? What grief means to me is losing a love one who you loved so much and you are grieving over them and all you want to do is having them back!! It is hard to lose someone that you love so much!! I am praying that everyone enjoyed to today's blog episode and have a good Wednesday or a good Thursday! I will see y'all on Friday!! I love y'all!  


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